The great thing about the current encouragement and promotion of self-love is that it inspires people to improve and become conscious about their lives. People engage in self-care practices such as taking days off, beauty routines, or making time for hobbies. These practices are helpful, but to have true self love we must work internally. We have to challenge the beliefs and limitations we hold inside.
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Don’t let other people and their expectations consume you. Time spent healing, growing, and allowing yourself to simply exist is not time wasted. You are not “behind” in life or less of value because you are not where you want to be. How people treat you is not indicative of your worth.
Allow yourself to have standards and values that suit you. You don’t have to wait until you look a certain way or have certain things. Never diminish your personal standards, for when you encounter someone or something that meets your standards and it for some reason doesn’t work out you can walk away knowing that:
- You are worthy of what you want regardless of circumstances
- You have moments and memories that fulfilled your standards at the time to hold onto
To have true self love we have to forgive ourselves, treat ourselves with respect, change the attitude we have towards life, and change the negative opinions we hold against ourselves. One of the most important relationships we will have in our lifetime is the one we have with ourselves.
Affirmations to remember:
I believe in my capabilities
I am proud of myself for getting this far
I am grateful for what I have, and I won’t dwell on what I don’t have
I attract abundance and prosperity
I am allowed to take up space and exist
I am worthy of genuine love and support
I deserve to feel safe and to be safe
Valentine’s Day is a holiday that symbolizes love and romance between loved ones. Share and show love with your friends, family, or partner(s). Most importantly, make sure to treat yourself the way you would want to be treated. If anything, self-love is an opportunity to show yourself kindness, compassion, and appreciation.
“Self-love is a process. It will require time. It will require patience. It will require change, solitude, pain, and everything that isn’t much pretty in this life. But in the end, it will be worth it. It will be beautiful. It will be you.” —Juansen Dizon
You are worthy of love and deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. Remember to prioritize self-love and acceptance, as it is the foundation for a fulfilling and happy life. Embrace your unique qualities and talents, and never forget your worth!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
About the Writer…
Jamaica Okech is a current Masters student studying Social Work at the University of Texas at Arlington. As a native Texan and member of the Black community she has a passion for finding ways to reduce harm in the lives of those in need. Jamaica is inspired to be in the mental health/counseling field due to the gaps she has witnessed in the treatment of historically marginalized communities.
As an aspiring clinician, Jamaica believes in the importance of therapy as a helpful tool to support individuals in their healing and self discovery journeys. In her therapeutic approach, she provides an unbiased safe space for her client to grow at their own pace. She provides support by prioritizing their wellness through trauma informed care, empowerment, and personalized treatment.